10 Best BDSM Sex Positions

What we know about BDSM is mostly what magazines and popular TV shows like "Bonding" show us. Sometimes, adding some ropes and a few whips into our sexual exploits can be disheartening. BDSM is scary for some and can even cause people to stay away because of fear.
But BDSM is a kink, and like all other kinks, it must be explored and discussed. As we explore our sexuality, we learn more about our likes and dislikes. Thousands of people have decided that BDSM is the new favorite sex fetish that needs to be brought into the bedroom.
But where do we start? If I know nothing about bondage techniques or BDSM sex positions, I do some research. The following topic will give you a wave of information you can take into the bedroom the next time you want to try something new. Suppose you are an expert at bondage positions and looking for more exciting ways to have sex. In that case, the following article is perfect for you.
We have found some of the best beginner-friendly BDSM poses while incorporating something new for the more experienced BDSM sex lover.
Let’s dive right in.

What is BDSM?

If you have ever seen or heard the term BDSM and have not been 100% sure what it means, let me clarify it for you. BDSM is the general term that refers to a group of sexual preferences and behaviors. Some of the other terms that BDSM refers to are domination and submission, sadism and masochism, and bondage.

BDSM sex is not considered a fetish in the community. BDSM is what helps someone get turned on. Some people use pills and vibrators or even watch porn to get turned on. Where people who enjoy BDSM use ropes and add some other factors into the mix. Just because it is different does not mean it's wrong. BDSM usually involves some sort of physical restraint and pain. Some people love when their partner spanks them, and others want to be tied up while having their nipples clamped.

Each person has their own way of participating in a BDSM relationship. There is always one submissive partner and one dominant partner.

Best BDSM sex positions

Some of the best BDSM sex positions might require you to have some props. Rope, chains, whips, cuffs, or bondage tape. The list could go on, but you know what I mean. BDSM sex positions need to inflict pain or add some servitude into the mix, and bondage toys are the best way to get both.

Before trying some of these kinky bondage poses, discuss them with your partner. It is essential to know that you are both consenting to the BDSM sex and that you have some sort of safety system in place. You can use a safe word or the "traffic light system."

Each color represents how you are feeling. Green means go for it. You are not uncomfortable, and you are enjoying what is happening. Amber means things need to slow down. It does not mean stopping completely. Amber means things must slow down, or you are close to reaching your limit. Red means stop, not stop, after a thrust or two. STOP IMMEDIATELY. Red is used when you become uncomfortable, you no longer give consent, or things are too much for you at the moment.

Let’s take a look at some of these hot BDSM sex positions.

1. The lady bandage

This next position is excellent for couples starting out and trying to go slow. This is just enough to get you into BDSM sex positions. For this position, you will need some rope or a breast harness. You tie your partner up around her body and hoist her breasts using a harness or rope. This position gives a slight squeeze to the body while keeping your breasts looking amazing. The one wearing the harness or rope gets on top and rides their partner, while the bottom person gets a full view of the breasts in all their glory.

2. Bowed classic

This is a classic yet simple bondage pose that will have you feeling sexy and vulnerable simultaneously. The person who is being tied up is in a seated position while the other ties their ankles together and then the knees. Once the legs are secure, tie their wrists to their ankles and elbows to their knees. This leaves the person who is tied up in a great position to be penetrated.

3. The golden gate bridge

If you are the giver, you must tie your partner's hands behind their back. Once tied up, your partner should lie on their back with their hips elevated, and you place your hands around their hips to help keep them steady. You can then move around and see everything without their hands in the way. While they struggle around you get to eat them out, touch them, and thrust as much as you want. 

4. Horizontal lay

The horizontal lay is an excellent beginner bondage pose. It is similar to missionary with a twist. You lay flat on your back while your partner ties your hands above your head. You can also tie the elbows together for a tighter fit. This allows your partner to ravish your body efficiently, and you can still be comfortable. This is a great position to help you ease into BDSM positions. 

5. Easy spread

This next BDSM position will need a bondage bar and rope. The bondage bar, also known as a spreader, is used to keep the receiver's legs wide open. The receiver gets into the doggie position while you place the spreader between their ankles. Tie the spreader to both ankles, forcing the legs apart. Next, you must tie both wrists to the middle of the spreader bar. For beginners, I suggest leaving the receiver's hands-free. This position allows easy access to the anus for anal sex or oral sex.

6. Dramatic chair

This position is a great way to change things. It also allows you to move your sex location. Firstly, you will need a chair with armrests. You will then tie the receiver's arms and wrists to the armchair while they are facing the front of the chair. Next, you will tie an ankle to each of the front feet of the chair. The chair helps you spread well while allowing easy access to all the good spots.

 

7. X marks the spot

When you start getting comfortable with BDSM sex positions, this next one will become your favorite. Firstly, you will need to have the receiver lay on their stomach while you tie the left hand to the left-hand side of the bed and vice versa. Once both hands are tied, you can do the ankles. The receiver will create an X with their body, and the giver can massage, touch, and give oral sex easily. 

8. My sweet

My sweet might be for more experienced BDSM lovers as it requires some strength. You will need to have restraints that fit over a door or hang from a roof. Firstly, the receiver will be tied up while standing with their arms raised in the air. Then the giver can easily lift the receiver's legs and move them around while thrusting. This is also an excellent position for oral sex.

9. Moon me

For this next bondage sex position, you will need a sturdy bar stool and bondage ropes. The receiver will bend over the bar stool, and the giver will bind their ankles to the foot of the stool. Once the feet are tied up, move around the stool and tie their wrists to the other side of the stool. This position allows for deep penetration and also allows you to spank them comfortably.

10. Butterfly

This next position is a common yet tricky bondage technique to master. But practice makes perfect. The receiver will lay on their stomach and bend their legs. They need to raise their arms and try to grab onto their toes while bringing their feet as close to their hands as possible. The giver will then tie their arms in that position to their ankles while making sure there is very little wiggle room.

Conclusion

BDSM is becoming a more practiced sexual preference, and after looking at some of these juicy BDSM sex positions, I can understand why. Sex is never supposed to be boring. It should excite you and make you feel thrilled. BDSM and bondage sex positions are simple ways to add some excitement to your sex life.

It is important to always discuss consent with your partner and find a safe word for when things get out of hand. All of the sex positions above are easily adjustable to help you find a comfortable middle ground that suits both of your needs.